Healing: The Only Way Out Is Through

Sunday, April 19, 2020


Just like most people I thought 2020 was about to be "my year"felt it in my spirit  but the year started off kicking my ass.


January I was in and out of clinics and the hospital because I was really sick and no one could figure out what was going on with me. February... yeah, don't want to get into that. And then boom, the beginning of March, a breakup and a weeks later being told to isolate. Let's just say... 2020 has hands. On top of everything, I started therapy which has opened up a whole realm of past traumatic events. At first, the isolation made me a little nervous. To be dealing with all of these things while also being in a pandemic even had my therapist a bit nervous. But, to be honest, I've been processing through everything better than I thought. Isolation has basically forced me to sit with myself and go through a lot of self-reflection and healing and, let's just say, healing is not easy.

Now, this post is not to have a pity party but to share what has been helping me deal with everything. I figured I'd share for anyone who is in similar situations or just overall healing. It's not easy, especially when your distractions are limited. But dealing with something face-to-face instead of distracting yourself allows for the process to begin quicker.


Allow yourself to feel

Cry. Vent... Cry some more. Do whatever but don't hold in your emotions. Allow your feelings to be present, nurture them, and let them transform. Trying to suppress them is only going to build up tension within you that can bring negative outcomes. Emotions tend to ebb and flow. One moment you'll feel great and the next you could feel down. Take as long as you need for this part of the process. Trust me, it does get easier. 

Journal 

Write it out. Sometimes we can get so stuck in our heads that our thoughts can spiral out of control. If you ever feel like this, grab your journal or a paper and write. Don't worry about grammar, proper spelling and all of that extra stuff let it flow. Do it for as long as you need until you feel your mind is at ease. If you aren't into writing grab your phone and record yourself talking. I can't tell you how many voice memos and videos I have of me venting to myself (don't judge!). Dumping your thoughts out gives you a clear head to think and process through what it is you're ruminating about. Journaling is also a great way to document your progress and gain motivation. So whenever you feel down or think you're not seeing any progress go back to your past journal entries (or voice memos) and see how far you've come.

Cleanse your space

Energy is something that I find extremely important to pay attention to. Not only can people and outside environments affect your mood, but your home environment can too. Take some time to clean up your space and declutter. I don't know about you, but a clean space always puts me in a better mood. Something else you can do is burn sage or palo santo (make sure to light a candle or incense after if you use white sage). Since we're going to be stuck at home for some time having a clean space is essential especially if you still have classes virtually or are working from home. Another thing you can do is decorate to make your space feel homier.

Meditation + Yoga

Journaling is my favorite thing to do to relieve stress, but I feel like meditation and yoga have become my new favoirte. It's one thing to mentally relieve stress, but to physically release it is like the cherry on top. I've tried yoga and meditation years ago but recently started again because my therapists recommended it. She spoke about how we can hold trauma in our bodies and that practicing meditation, yoga and movement therapy really helps. You. Will. Be. Surprised at how much of a difference this can make. You probably won't notice much when you first start, but the more practice you do the better especially with meditation.

Therapy

There's a lot of misconceptions around therapy and a lot of people think that it can only be sought out if someone is experiencing anxiety, depression, or other mental illnesses. People often consider it taboo because it makes it seem as if there is something wrong with you. I'm here to tell you that there's absolutely nothing wrong with seeing a therapist. All the myths surrounding therapy are constantly being debunked and more people, especially minorities, are starting to take advantage of the service.  Therapy helps you untangle years of confusion and change unhealthy patterns. It can help you tap into certain things that you didn't even know were having negative effects on you and your life. It can also help you see things in a different perspective. There are many reasons why therapy is effective. Receiving professional help, especially when dealing with trauma, can help you break things down so that you can deal with it in a healthy way.

*Although we're social distancing at the moment, therapy is still being offered virtually. 

Keep A Routine

During this time we're really limited in what we can do but it's really important to still have a routine for yourself so that you don't get caught up sleeping your days away or just lounging around. We don't really know how long we'll be stuck in our homes so keeping a simple routine can help us get through our day. Simple things such as cleaning, getting some fresh air, or reading can help the days feel like they aren't so long. Setting up tasks for yourself can also keep you from being in your head so much.

Remember, healing isn't linear. There will be days where everything is fine and other days where everything isn't. It's not a race to a finish line but a process that's going to take time and require a lot of inner work. Be patient with yourself.

If you know someone who is alone during this time or going through something do check on them, even if it seems like they're fine. A quick check-in text or phone call can go a long way.

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