Dealing With The Post Grad Blues

Tuesday, November 13, 2018

It's been over three months since I've graduated college and let me tell you something, it's been a little rough. The post-grad blues is no joke especially when nothing is lining up.

I call it the "blues" instead of "depression" because I feel like it's not depression, but something that can lead to it (I'm not a psychologist, don't quote me lol). It's something that I haven't really seen discussed a lot amongst graduates, but feel that it should be because, let's face it, life after college gets real.

Once you graduate you're placed in a pool of millions of other recent graduates scrambling to get a job and figuring out their next move. I've been applying to jobs since my second to last semester, have been on multiple interviews, and still nothing. After a while, I started getting discouraged. I thought I was going to get out of college with a degree and a well-paying job in my field.

Although I didn't think the post-grad blues would ever hit me, it did. Was placed in front of me like a brick wall, actually. It was this constant doubt and fear of not knowing the next step I was supposed to take. It was frequently wondering if I would ever be good enough for that job I want or if my next application was finally going to be my last.

At first, it was difficult because I've never really been a go with the flow type of person. I've always felt that I had a purpose in life and that I need to use every day to work towards it, whatever it may be. I tried to remain optimistic, but I'd be lying if I said that doubt and fear don't cloud my thoughts at times.

After what felt like an eternity of being stuck, I decided that I couldn't let myself sulk any longer. I decided to do things like revamp my resume, practice interview skills, work on grad school applications, and focus on personal projects.

These last few months consisted of a lot of self-reflection on how far I've come and what I need to be doing to get to where I want to be in life. As much as I wish there was a sign that read in big bold letters what my next move was I knew that that wasn't reality. Just because I'm not where I want to be at the moment doesn't mean I'm failing at life. This is something I had to realize to keep myself going.

If you're dealing with the post-grad blues or feeling down about your current situation, remember:

  1. There is no "right" way, age, or time when it comes down to it.

  2. Don't give up in those moments of discouragement.

  3. This stage of your life is temporary.

  4. There's tons of support all around you, but you won't know unless you speak up.

  5. There's no linear path to success.

  6. Never forget how far you've come.

This is only the beginning. One day I'm going to look back and remember this part of my life and realize how crazy I was to think that where I am now was it, and you will too.

Keep hustling, love. The best is yet to come.

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  1. I just graduated in May so I can definitely relate to the post-grad blues. I landed my current job about a month after graduation, which I know from experience is extremely rare so I'm very grateful. But even during the one-month waiting period I was on edge.

    Those six bullets are also right on point. I think society puts so much pressure on us to have every move figured out one right after the next. Life doesn't always work out like that (actually it seems that life never works out like that lol), but it doesn't make our achievements any less worthy. Great post, and be kind to yourself during this temporary stage!

  2. Congratulations on graduation and the job!

    Yes, I completely agree with your views on societal pressure. It's so easy to get caught up and compare especially having social media nowadays, but it's important not to.

    Thank you for reading and for the advice. I appreciate it :)